Tips to Help: When Your Relationship Lacks Physical Intimacy

Physical intimacy with your partner is a one of the key building blocks for a strong and lasting relationship.  Issues can occur for many reasons including stress, hormone/body changes, age or new stages in a relationship such as having a child. When marriages or relationships go long periods of time without sex, couples often avoid discussing the issues at hand.  Feelings of resentment and distance can begin to brew and couples experience lower satisfaction in their relationship as a result.

The most important first step to take when you want to improve your sex life is to start by communicating about the topic with your partner. Communication is the most important factor to almost every aspect of a relationship and this includes your sex life. Being able to identify problems with your partner and come up with a solution not only reinforces your bond, it also helps build confidence for both partners. Knowing that talking this out is the first step in helping reignite the fire in the bedroom, here are some common reasons things that can affect your sex life with your partner and what you can do about them.

1. Not making enough time

As a relationship matures, busy schedules start to take over and sheer tiredness can set in by the end of the day when some late night love making could be happening. While we are sure to make time for things we enjoy throughout our lives such as TV, exercise or reading, shouldn’t we be doing the same for our sex lives? While it may seem counterintuitive for the spontaneity of sex, adding a time specifically scheduled for you and your partner to enjoy each other in the bedroom can be both exciting and can give both of you something to look forward to during your day to day routine. Spicing things up beforehand with some sexting can help build anticipation and can get your engine humming before the action even starts.

2. Forgetting About the Basics

The early days of your relationship before you had even jumped into bed with your partner started out with simple things such as kissing, holding hands, or simply reaching out to be in touch contact with each other. Getting back to the basics and kissing your partner longer and more often can help bring a spark back to your intimacy. This doesn’t have to mean full-on makeout sessions need to be taking place daily, however a quick peck on the lips or cheek won’t cut it anymore. Taking the time for an extra 10 seconds of passionate kissing each day can be the just right kickstart to your physical intimacy. Things such as reaching out to your partner and stroking their hands or hair can bring a feeling of closeness that can also be done anywhere.

3. Going on Actual Dates

Have you and your partner planned a special evening for just the two of you outside a birthday, holiday, or anniversary? It’s easy to get comfortable after a while in your relationship and forgetting to mark down dates on the calendar for just the two of you to go out together can become far too easy. Dates should be happening regularly no matter how many years you’ve been in your relationship. Marking down time on the calendar for you two to spend alone on a date builds anticipation during the week and can help lead to a fun night in the bedroom after you’re back from your night out together.

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