Often times, women will ask me how I use SYLK.  Because of how much I know about SYLK, my philosophy is that SYLK should be used as part of everyday body hygiene.  I take a shower, apply underarm deoderant, body lotion, facial moisturizer and SYLK (where it belongs), and I’m ready for the day.  I actually apply SYLK about 3 times per day.   The anti-bacterial effect keeps you fresh at all times.  It really feels better to be wearing SYLK than not.!  And, if an intimate situation should present itself, you’re ready to go without pre-preparation time, which is a sure mood destroyer.  It’s particularly nice when you apply SYLK before going to bed when you have intimacy in the morning when you wake up.  The SYLK is still there, and not having mood interruption at that time is especially nice.

 

Kareyn Talson, VP

New Zealand Pure, Inc. and SYLK, LLC

Noted Sexologist, Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright always has some interesting comments that are related to sex.  Here are a few of her recent observations:

Who’s Fussiest?Â
When it comes to finding love, a survey from Parship found that in a comparison of 14 countries, Irish women are the choosiest in Europe.  British men are the least fussy about their partner of choice.  French men put the greatest value on looks, while British men were into brains over beauty.  (SYLK comment:  Wonder where US women and men stand on this subject.  We’ll search for the answers and report them.)

Sexual Jokes No Laughing Matter in Work Place
A study in the Journal of Applied Psychology examining the effects of sexual jokes, innuendo, flirtation and talks about sexuality issues  at work found that neither gender gets anything positive out of such.  While 25% report that such sexual behavior in the workplace is fun and flattering, these people also tended to feel less valued at work and report depressive symptoms compared to those who experienced little or no sexual behavior at the office.  Participants were employed in the  manufacturing, social service and university sectors.

High-Risk Partners Increase Risk of Acquiring STD
Research has confirmed that those who choose high-risk partners are likelier to have an STD even when one’s condom-use patterns are taken into account.  A study published in Sexually Transmitted diseases found that of the 412 15 to 24-year-old participants, half of those with partners categorized as high-risk were diagnosed with an STD.  Researchers are encouraging healthcare providers to ask patients more about their partner’s high-risk history during STD screening in potentially catching more patients who need to be tested for infection(s)  and educated about safer sex.

Q: I am interested in your thoughts on how cybersex can be a healthy cmponent of someone’s sex life, as well as the pitfalls/dangers (emotionally) of cybersex.

A:  Wise to be thinking since there are a lot of factors to consider in getting (more) sexually active via cybersex.
Some plusses to cybersex are that… 

• You can take on a whole new identity, which can be sexally empowering.
• You can live out fantasies (and not necessarily in human form) that you could or would never do in real life.
• You can “pickâ€� up your real life lover in an effort to keep things hot and monogamous.
• You can learn a lot of new sex tricks from online communities that support online group sex.

Some negatives about cybersex are that….

• You can become a recluse from real life, which does nothing for singles wanting sexual intimacy.
• You can hurt your partner’s feelings or wreck your relationship, especially if your partner sees cybersex with others as a form of cheating.
• You could lose your sense of self in always living a fantasy; and
• You could develop feelings for people that won’t be sustainable in real life and end up getting hurt yourself.

I came across a fascinating article the other day that contained a staggering statistic: 66% of women experience painful intercourse.

[Note: You can click here to read the full article by Katharine O'Connell, MD on Glamour.com]

Here’s an interesting excerpt from that article:

Simply not being lubricated enough is the number-one reason for pain during sex. There are two parts of our body’s response to foreplay. The first is engorgement, a rushing of blood to the vagina that expands the vaginal walls - our version of an erection. The second is lubricatioon, a release of moisture from the glands that ring the vaginal opening. Both actions signal your readiness for sex, so starting before they take place cqn hurt. One patient tol me, “A little friction feels good, but I think there’s too much friction happening.” The quick fix? A lubricant.

In addition to a lack of proper lubrication, other potential reasons for dryness include Vulvodynia, a yeast infection, cervix bumping, an Ovarian Cyst, Endometriosis and Pelvic Congestion. A doctor should be consulted in these cases, although a very few lubricants, noteably SYLK Natural Personal Lubricant, can be a valuable addition to your doctor’s recommendations.

As far as vaginal dryness goes, it is important to choose a water-based, all natural lubricant like SYLK for the healthiest and best results. You can thank us after you try it!

Editor’s Note: This is the first of our “Expert Sex Tips” blog entries from our resident Sexpert, Amara - Enjoy!

It wasn’t a sudden thing, it was more like the ‘drip, drip’ effect, gaining a pound or two a year which I just couldn’t seem to shake off. It was so gradual I had little reason to ever consider dieting. But after 30 years, and 30 unshakable pounds, ‘Presto!’ My body just wasn’t as light and bouncy as it once was.

Those bulges nagged away in the background of my thoughts, and on the forefront of my belly for years and years. So one day I did the unthinkable. I ditched the ‘I can do this myself’ theory and signed up for a program supervised by a doctor. I ‘just’ lost 20 pounds, and I have to say, being the weight I was during college definitely makes me feel sexier than ever.

While I don’t think being overweight should affect anyone’s sex life, if you are one of those carrying around an inner tube around your waist or your thighs, you know it can get in the way. While I know that our self esteem is supposed to come from deep inside, it sure doesn’t hurt catching a glimpse of yourself walking by a window saying, ‘who’s that sexy chick?’ It’s me!

Read the entire article and much more at Amara’s website, NourishingArts.com.

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