Noted Sexologist, Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright always has some interesting comments that are related to sex.  Here are a few of her recent observations:

Who’s Fussiest?
When it comes to finding love, a survey from Parship found that in a comparison of 14 countries, Irish women are the choosiest in Europe.  British men are the least fussy about their partner of choice.  French men put the greatest value on looks, while British men were into brains over beauty.  (SYLK comment:  Wonder where US women and men stand on this subject.  We’ll search for the answers and report them.)

Sexual Jokes No Laughing Matter in Work Place
A study in the Journal of Applied Psychology examining the effects of sexual jokes, innuendo, flirtation and talks about sexuality issues  at work found that neither gender gets anything positive out of such.  While 25% report that such sexual behavior in the workplace is fun and flattering, these people also tended to feel less valued at work and report depressive symptoms compared to those who experienced little or no sexual behavior at the office.  Participants were employed in the  manufacturing, social service and university sectors.

High-Risk Partners Increase Risk of Acquiring STD
Research has confirmed that those who choose high-risk partners are likelier to have an STD even when one’s condom-use patterns are taken into account.  A study published in Sexually Transmitted diseases found that of the 412 15 to 24-year-old participants, half of those with partners categorized as high-risk were diagnosed with an STD.  Researchers are encouraging healthcare providers to ask patients more about their partner’s high-risk history during STD screening in potentially catching more patients who need to be tested for infection(s)  and educated about safer sex.

Q: I am interested in your thoughts on how cybersex can be a healthy cmponent of someone’s sex life, as well as the pitfalls/dangers (emotionally) of cybersex.

A:  Wise to be thinking since there are a lot of factors to consider in getting (more) sexually active via cybersex.
Some plusses to cybersex are that… 

  • You can take on a whole new identity, which can be sexally empowering.
  • You can live out fantasies (and not necessarily in human form) that you could or would never do in real life.
  • You can “pick” up your real life lover in an effort to keep things hot and monogamous.
  • You can learn a lot of new sex tricks from online communities that support online group sex.

Some negatives about cybersex are that….

  • You can become a recluse from real life, which does nothing for singles wanting sexual intimacy.
  • You can hurt your partner’s feelings or wreck your relationship, especially if your partner sees cybersex with others as a form of cheating.
  • You could lose your sense of self in always living a fantasy; and
  • You could develop feelings for people that won’t be sustainable in real life and end up getting hurt yourself.